Er … um … ouch:
And, well, yeah, about that.
So much of life is about leave-taking: moving from home to college, from love to love, from city to city and from life stage to life stage.
In earlier times, leaving was defined by distance, but now it is defined by silence. Everybody everywhere is just a text away, a phone call away. Relationships are often defined by the frequency and intensity of communication between two people.
The person moving on and changing a relationship no longer makes a one-time choice to physically go to another town. He makes a series of minute-by-minute decisions to not text, to not email or call, to turn intense communication into sporadic conversation or no communication. His name was once constant on his friend’s phone screen, but now it is rare and the void is a wound.
(Brooks)
And so on.
Anyway. Yeah. About that.
Life transitions are.
Still, though. Ouch.
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Tomorrow, Tom. “Go read David Brooks’ column in the NYT this morning and tell me that’s not just one giant subtweet from a man going through a divorce”. Twitter. 3 March 2015.
Brooks, David. “Leaving and Cleaving”. The New York Times. 3 March 2015.